When I got fired from my first real job for being way too apathetic – I put the blame on my boss for being a bully. He would make my colleagues work late into the am with the promise of ‘a piece of the pie’ once he sold the company.
And in the process he would insult, disgrace, and make sure that they knew how little self-worth they had. It was a brutal thing to watch. It really was.
And you could tell that he had issues that went way beyond his daily work.
But they still had hope that one day the company would sell...
... and then they would be rich.
They all bought into the promise.
But they never saw the pie.
Last I’ve heard, he moved operations to Greece where labor is much cheaper.
Sure he was a bully, but truth be told – that wasn’t the reason why I got fired.
It was all me.
I couldn’t see it at the time, but I wasn’t able to deliver on what was required of me. I was supposed to be an active cheerleader for the company, a trait that my nature would never allow - especially for a company I didn’t believe in.
I was faced with an internal dilemma, but instead put the blame on an external force. Isn’t it interesting how often that happens?
Through hardships we often find other people, places, and things to blame simply because these are the things that we can actively see.
But the truth is that most of our issues derive from the unseen.
It doesn’t take much to be happy and peaceful.
But having the courage and confidence to conquer and overcome our inner demons is not an easy thing to do. The unseen tends to weave itself into the fabric of our being. But here’s the kicker.
If you want to change the world, then you need to change yourself first.
A simple – if, then – statement that holds more force than a napalm attack.
And in order to first change yourself you need to dive deep down into the scariest, most ugly parts of your psyche – the place where our darkest secrets reside. That’s where real change starts. And if you can find it in yourself to conjure up the courage to fight the thirteen greatest enemies in the world of the unseen, then there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.
“Declare your jihad on thirteen enemies you cannot see – egoism, arrogance, conceit, selfishness, greed, lust, intolerance, anger, lying, cheating, gossiping and slandering. If you can master and destroy them, then you will be ready to fight the the enemy you can see” - Abu Hamid Al-Ghazali
Let me repeat that:
We are told that if you can change yourself, then you can change the world.
A phrase that is often plastered on personal development websites, self help books, video courses, and audio programs that cost a fortune to partake in.
It’s a catchy phrase, and an honest one too – but maybe a little misunderstood.
Changing yourself doesn’t happen overnight, and there sure as hell isn’t a silver bullet solution. It’s a long and arduous process that needs to be tackled one step at a time. Like a steep set of stairs that leads to the land bliss and contentment. You’ll stumble and fall along the way, but in the end it will all be worth it. Here’s an idea for you. The greatest cure for overcoming your inner demons. If a thing is troubling you, simply do the opposite.
Fight arrogance with humility, destroy anger by embracing the calm, conquer selfishness by giving more, and overcome lust by giving love a chance.
Always find room for abundance, regardless of how little you have.
It’s not easy being a boss, and sometimes we try to find significance in life by being the most dominant person in the room. It’s an inner struggle that can make life difficult. But I wish my former boss could have practiced more empathy towards his employees. My co-workers were all nice people.
I loved them all like my own family.
But I wish that they could see beyond the pot of gold at the end on a non-existent rainbow. I wish that they could see the true value of their self-worth.
Maybe one day they will use their gracious hope towards a better cause.
A thing they actively believe in.
And together, we can unite.
Hand in hand as the entire world turns its face towards a hope that thrives from a deep sense of sincerity and purpose. A passion that illuminates the sole.
A love that lights up the world.
Like planting a seed and tending to it’s every need.
Growth is a slow but steady process.
Wholesome love for a wholesome world.
Our inner demons pushed to the back burner where they belong.
And us – together, marching along to the beat of unconditional faith.
Hand in hand.
Love upon love.
The world is a beautiful place if you let it be.