If there was just one thing that we all want, it would be to be liked by everyone.
Not because we are selfish or need the approval of others to survive – but simply because being liked is the key to better relationships, better success in business and a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Those of us who are liked are often the ones who get invited to parties, are given better treatment, have more friends, and find themselves in an abundance of opportunities. Being liked is also the cure to life’s greatest curse...
... a lonely heart.
But what is it that differentiates those who are liked by everyone – and the ones that nobody wants to associate themselves with?
There are a few things I’ve come to notice.
Those who are liked are kind with everyone regardless of who they are, how much money they make, and what race they are.
Those who are liked are constantly looking for different ways to give sincere praise because they understand the value in being able to make others feel good around them.
They love to give gifts to their friends, family members, and colleagues during non-special occasions just as much as they do during birthdays and anniversaries.
They also love to bring the most value and are always in service of others. From helping the neighbours with their groceries, to being the shoulder to cry on – these are the people that often go out of their way to be as helpful as they possibly can without needing or asking for anything in return.
Those who are liked avoid being cocky and arrogant even when they are right.
Instead – they believe that being modest and humble, regardless of how successful they are, is the best way to gain the respect and admiration of others.
They love to smile with both friends and strangers.
They love to listen to other people's problems and help them find solutions.
Those who are liked the most are the type of people who often do remarkable work. Have you ever noticed how those who do work that is impressive are immediately liked by everyone in their industry regardless of their character?
This is no surprise, as people who do remarkable work are often associated with having admirable skills and qualities such as a strong sense of discipline, superior talent, and the drive to pursue a productive lifestyle.
And last, but definitely not least – they are the most honest and make other feel as comfortable around them as they possibly can.
I still have a long way to go when it comes to doing the above, and to be honest – I should practice more of what I preach on a regular basis.
But writing about it allows me to process my thoughts and be more aware of the things that I would like to change and improve in my life.
Which begs the question – what would you like to change in your life?
And more importantly, what would you add to the list above?