What The F** Am I Doing With My Life?

I’ve been asking myself this question a lot lately.

What the f*** am I doing with my life?

Sure, I’m partner at a business I absolutely love and adore – I get to write weekly articles for my small audience on this blog (you’re awesome!)… but so what?

What’s the bigger picture here?

Where will all of this take me?

Is it even worth it?

I honestly don’t know…

And the last thing I want to do is to mislead the people who read my work into thinking that everything is A OK! over on my side of the screen.

Don’t you hate when that happens?

Web personalities and celebrities who pretend that their lives are perfect with their cool friends, their photo-shopped photo-shoots and pristine about pages.

Instagramers (is that a term?) who snap and publish highlights of their day.

When the camera is on they smile.

But deep down inside they cry.

And at night, when the entire world falls asleep to broken dreams and unrealised potential – their guitars gently weep to the tune of loneliness.

I’ve been there.

You’ve been there.

We’ve all been there.

And I still don’t know if any of this is worth it.

The only thing I do know is that I am not doing nearly enough to be able to say that I am on the path to success that I’ve envisioned for myself ever since I could remember.

Screw the money.

That’s not what I’m talking about here.

My definition of success begins and ends with legacy.

How big of an impact would I have made when I pass away?

Will anyone even remember me when I’m gone?

Is the world a better place with me in it?

Every single day I picture what my ideal life would be like.

It’s a pretty picture.

But what am I doing today in order to get there?

What are YOU doing today in order to get to where you want to be?

What scares me the most is that I shouldn’t even be complaining or going on a rant about all of this… because truth be told, I already know all the answers.

If I knew in my heart of hearts that I wanted to becomes the world’s greatest blogger that has ever lived – the Michael Jordan of blogging, then I know exactly what I need to do to be able to get there… I HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS!

But am I doing what needs to be done?

Not really.

Sure, I try my best at writing these articles and all of the things I’m involved in – but that is no where near enough. Not even in the slightest.

Chances are you know exactly how to get what you want as well.

But if you are still where you were a year ago, then you’re just not putting in the work!

None of us need to purchase another book on dieting or take a course on how to grow our businesses… we already know the effing answers and just need to grow the *balls* to stop complaining, stop jerking around and just put in the work.

Sigh.

I’m getting passionate.

One of the guys I respect most is Brandon from Humans of New York.

Not because his page is wildly popular at over twelve million followers (you read that correctly) and not because he’s sold thousands of copies of his book – but simply because he chose one thing to do and did it to the best of his abilities.

There’s nothing magical about his work.

He just put in the work that needed to be done and called it a day.

In fact, in one of his interviews he was asked about what advice he’d give to others who want to find success in their own projects… and his answer?

‘Just put in the work. That’s all it comes down to. Put in the work’.

I couldn’t agree more.

No one succeeds on their first try.

No one!

Even Justin Bieber who most people think was an overnight success spent years touring the world (visiting every single radio station that would give him a chance to prove himself) before he became the sensation that he now is.

Why aren’t I doing that with my blogging career?

Why aren’t I visiting every single blog out there, knocking on their door and asking for a chance to prove myself? To show the world what I know deep down inside.

That I am good enough.

And you are good enough too.

It all comes down to putting in the work.

Knowing what you effing want and putting in the work to get there.

This is the only thing that matters to anyone who wants to find their success.

Forget about all of the strategies and techniques and gimmicks and free-trials for this software or that service… forget about all of that sh*t and just put in the work.

“Go the extra mile, it’s never crowded there.” – said the most brilliant person ever!

So from now on I’ll stop complaining.

I’ll stop wondering about what I’m doing with my life.

And I’ll just put in the work.

Day and night.

I’ll put in the work… and while i’m doing so I’ll ask myself these questions:

What’s the End Goal?

I’m too easily swayed.

And that needs to change.

Every single time I see a cool new website pop-up or another podcast that goes viral… I think to myself ‘Yes! I want to do that! I could do a better job!’…

But is that really in-line with my end goal?

Am I just using this as an excuse to distract myself from work that’s needs to be done?

I won’t waste anymore energy on things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. From now on I will only do the things that compliment my end goal.

I will only do the things that are truly me.

Because authenticity is a rare jewel in this over saturated, highly digital world.

Only do the things that will compliment your end goal.

That’s the only thing that matters.

What’s the Best Use of my Time?

Does it make sense for me to spend an hour a day on Facebook?

No!

Out of my life.

Browsing Instagram like a mindless drone?

No!

Out of my life.

I’ve just unfollowed everyone of the platform.

I’ve just unfollowed everyone on Twitter too.

I can already feel the effects of reducing information clutter.

Peace.

And calm.

Baby steps young soldier!

Should I write more?

Should I think more?

Should I read more good books?

Should I create more?

Yes!

I’ll do more of that.

Should I break out of my shell of solitude and introversion and write for more publications that are in-line with my beliefs and values?

Yes!

I’ll do more of that.

I’ll spend my time more wisely.

The only thing that we all have in common is that we are all given 24 hours a day to live. Let’s take advantage of that. Let’s spend more time creating our best works of art instead of consuming things created with the sole intention of trying to sell you more of the things you don’t need. Re-branded and re-packaged. 

We don’t need you.

At the end of the day, consumers always lose.

Money.

Time.

Energy.

Consumerism is the biggest myth in the history of the world.

And the guys at the top don’t want you to know that!

You don’t need another iPhone, another watch or another TV.

What you already have is good enough.

I recently spent two months without my iPhone.

Best time of my life.

And I was surrounded with more room to grow.

To breathe.

Exhale what’s left of your consumer behavioural habits.

Freedom comes from lack of dependence.

So let’s stop consuming, and let’s start creating.

Create to your hearts content.

Because a creative spirit is one that understands the basic needs of human life.

We all just want to create and for our work to matter.

It’ll be hard at first, but worth it in the end.

You already know that.


How Can I Improve Myself?

Most ‘gurus’ claim that self improvement comes at a price.

Buy their eBook and you’ll have all of the answers to life’s biggest questions.

What bull.

James Altucher (a blogger I admire highly) says that you should only strive for improving yourself one percent every day. In the long-term this will add up.

Sure, this sounds like great advice.

But without understanding exactly why we want to improve – the core reason for wanting to make ourselves better inside and out… nothing will help.

Improving yourself and your life starts with asking yourself why.

Why do I want to improve myself?

Because I want to become the world’s greatest blogger that has ever lived.

Why do you want to become that?

Because all I’ve ever wanted to do is inspire people to live up to their greatest potential. Why? Because I know too well that every single person in this world has the potential to do great and beautiful things… only if they knew it and believed in themselves. Why? Because the proof is already out there.

I’ve seen people go from rags to riches – from nothing to something bigger than I could ever have imagined… and it’s a freakin amazing thing to see and witness.

But why?

Really?

Why?

It just makes me happy dammit!

And not to mention, I’ll be rich! Yes! Rich!

But why?

I thought you don’t care about the money?

Money is good!

But it’s not everything.

Character and sincere intentions proceeds all.

Money is just a by-product.

It doesn’t really matter, but throw some my way and I’d be happy to take it.

Why?

Because I need to survive!

Why?

STOP WITH THE FREAKIN WHYS!!!!

Sigh.

After having gone through this process, I already feel better.

Slightly psychotic.

But better.

Improving myself already seems like an easier thing to do.

I’m actually looking forward to it.

Maybe I should start by learning French and Chinese.

The more languages I know, the more people I can reach!

I can improve myself by learning just one new word every day.

Just one.

Baby steps.

And then I’ll start to work out again, so when I’m on the stage at venues around the world i’ll be more energetic, more about to deliver what the world has come to see.

I’ll start with just one push up a day.

And then two.

Then three…

It’s in line with my why and would clearly help me on this journey.

Know the reason why you want to improve yourself.

Have a clear why, a destination that leads to your greatest dreams and desires – and improving yourself on a daily basis would become much easier than you think.

At the End of the Day, What’s the Only Thing That Matters?

Too often I forget about the only things that matter.

This article is way too self-centred.

I hope one day my kids will read it and think their dad was a mad-man.

But truth be told, none of this stuff really matters.

In the grand scheme of things I’m just a tiny particle floating around – trying to make waves in a world rigged with systems and structures too powerful to touch.

I only care about the health of my family.

That’s the only thing that matters.

I wish I could help millions of people around the world.

It’s what I know I was born to do.

But if I can’t, then at least my family is healthy.

I’m getting tired.

I need to think about my wife.

I need to speak to a friend and let them know how much I appreciate them.

If you’re reading this, I appreciate you.

I need to take a break.

I’ll finish this article later.

The only thing I’ve ever wanted to do (professionally) was to build small businesses on the internet, write and make videos. Right now I’m doing one of the three.

So starting next week this will change.

I’ll be launching a new online project that I’ve been thinking about for ages but never had the courage to do… because just like you I’m afraid of failing.

Constant failure has made me paralyzed… but remember what I said above?

No more effing excuses!

Enough is enough.

I will put it out into the world and if no one likes it then so what?

I will use it myself!

I won’t let my self-sabotage cripple me into un-action.

And if there’s a thing you’ve been thinking about, something you’d like to put out into the world but never had the courage to do so… please… I urge you…

Join me.

Screw the naysayers and take a leap of faith.

Let’s fly close to the sun together.

Hand in hand.

Too close and we’ll burn.

Too far down and we’ll drown in the sea of regret and broken dreams.

That’s why it’s called a leap of faith.

Jump.

And have hope.

But at least we’ll do it together.

And do me a favour, will you?

A shameless act of self promotion…

Share this article with a friend.

Or two.

The more the merrier.

And help me break out of my shell.

I don’t ask for much from people.

But this would be highly appreciated.

One step in the right direction.

A simple act of kindness.

You for me.

Me for you.

And the world keeps turning.

24 hours a day.

That’s all you’ve got.

Work hard.

And make the most out of it.

Let’s make magic happen.